As a coach, I have come across people daily with amazing God-given potentials. Some of them live below average, in distress, broke, stranded, and worried because they are not responsible for their life’s discussion.

What do I mean by life’s discussion?

Does what you hear, think, say and how you act determined by you or by the opinions of others? Millions of people have allowed other people’s opinions and judgements to control the direction of their lives. Josiah Ruff once said: “People pleasing is a curse that should be avoided at all costs”.

Here are some self-check questions I recommend you practice to enable you take control of your life’s discussions. Before you do anything ask yourself these questions.

How is this adding value to my ultimate vision?

How will this draw me closer to my goal for today, this week, this month?.

Am I doing this because I want to do it or because of my fear of judgement from others if I don’t do it?

Don’t let someone else control what you do in life because they are all your decisions, your outcomes, your life. Remember, no one has power over you unless you give it to them. You are in control of your life and your choices decide your own fate.

“You only have control over three things in your life – the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take” – Jack Canfield.